About


 About the Blog…… I started talking before I could walk. I could speak in full sentences by my first birthday even though I couldnt walk a single step. My parents told me I looked rather strange. And even when I did finally learn to walk, I could still talk faster than I could walk. I’ve always had a lot to say but not the determination or skill to do it consistently and to do it well. This is my attempt to learn how to do both.

And as I learn to write, I hope that this will become an easy way for friends to keep up with me. As my heart straddles the eastern seaboard of the United States and the precarious lands of Pakistan, my physical self can unfortunately be only in one place at one time. And there are only so many people I can call in a day or status updates on facebook that I can write or messages that I can respond to. I’m horrible at keeping in touch. I hope this will help remedy that.

About Me …… I’m incurably Pakistani. I was born and raised in Islamabad, Pakistan and have grown to love the motherland with a passion that, despite the best efforts of those around me, never ceases to diminish. My father sent me to college abroad not once but twice in the hopes that I would be lured away by the charms and freedoms of the Western world, build a better life for myself in a land where I could succeed on the basis of my talents and merits alone (because thats pretty much  all I have to offer!). It didnt quite work out this way.

After completing my second academic stint in the US I hope to be on a plane back to the homeland and while I will always have the deepest admiration for the country that gave me a free education and some of my bestest friends, Pakistan will always be home. And oddly enough, it will be while haggling with my favorite fruit wala, negotiating the killer traffic and sometimes wildlife on the roads or waiting in the midst of a disorganized mob to meet a government official that I will feel most comfortable and at my best.

If you want to tell me something, you can do it at tell.sehar@gmail.com

24 Responses to “About”

  1. Shah Abdali May 25, 2010 at 4:41 am #

    Since you have had the privlage of being abroad in a prestigous institute-which is a ‘KUDDOS’ (and still there if this is read on time- i hope), since you have had extensive interaction with other Pakistani’s. I would like to ask you this, on a realistic scale, ‘how many of those Pakistani want to come back to the country- MOTHER LAND’?

    Don’t take this the wrong way, i am not bantering anyone just curious to know. I know some people do it out of financial reason ( to support families back home). Just wondering about the rest keeping the latter out of it.

    • sehartariq July 11, 2010 at 11:38 pm #

      Many young Pakistanis want to return. At least a lot of the ones I know want to return to Pakistan.

      We have to think of ways to provide them with opportunities for employment and appropriate remuneration so that they can be productive members of society and contribute to national growth.

  2. Ayesha June 22, 2010 at 8:12 am #

    Hi Sehar,

    You already know that I admire the fact that you want to return to Pakistan to make a difference and give back to the country that has made you what you are. Its true that most Pakistani youth dont want to return to Pakistan and those who are here want to leave… but someone has to start anew and change the “trend”. I say trend because when I was growing up it was a fashion statement “hum abroad rehte hain”. Now kids feel its a necessity. No jobs, incredible inflation and law and order situation. But if all were to leave then who would take the initiative to make a change. Thank you for always writing and making us all think. keep it up.
    Loads of love and cant wait to see you when you get back,
    Ayesha Bashir

    • sehartariq July 11, 2010 at 11:36 pm #

      Thank you for all the encouragement! 🙂

  3. Syed July 8, 2010 at 11:32 am #

    I really like your article in the Dawn newspaper and that brought me to your blog. I am unable to read your blogs fully yet but I promise I will. As I was reading about you I saw you said “free education”. Explain that to me. I am in USA just finished my MBA and now going back to PakiLand in Aug although I have big NONO from every one in Pakistan.
    I will let you know more about your blog as I will read it.
    Thanks
    Syed

    • sehartariq July 11, 2010 at 11:36 pm #

      Thanks! I hope you continue to revisit the blog. By free education I meant I’ve always studied on scholarship in the US (both for my bachelors and my masters).

      I wish you lots of luck and success on your return to Pakistan!

  4. Samz July 21, 2010 at 3:11 am #

    I believe there is a diff between one wants to return and one actually returns!!

    • sehartariq July 21, 2010 at 3:16 am #

      Agreed! There is definitely a difference. But in case you were wondering, my ticket is booked for July 26th 2010 from New York to Islamabad. And its a one way ticket.

      • Samz July 21, 2010 at 11:07 pm #

        So returning by choice! Think twice before its too late.

        Btw welcome to “f”lawless land!

  5. Abu Jibrail July 21, 2010 at 3:27 am #

    You are 26, why dont you help yourself in getting married, start raising some lovely kids, and busy yourself with baking (if thats the right word) roti. Try writing one such blog on, western infused – Pakistani blended girls enjoying a cocktail of east and west juice drink. Not that I am trying to get sarcastic with your writing, rather I want to understand the mindset of young Pakistani girls like you explicitly delaying marriage because of – guess what – high high super-high education, which proportionally has impact on our society. I want to understand how girls like you idealize balancing domestic affairs (marriage,…) and foreign affairs (education – the real devil again…). Good luck.

    • Sarah November 28, 2010 at 9:53 am #

      …..I wonder what life would be like for women around you as a mothers, sister/s, wife/wives, daughter/s, colleagues (yours’ or someone else’s!), and all those who make up more than 50% of the entire population of Pakistan and of the world?

      I also wonder why most of the men in Pakistan when lecturing women emphasises the importance of marriage over the importance of education whereas in Islam it is the other way round.

      I hope men in particular and people in general keep civility and modesty in their attitudes and conversation and follow the example of Prophet Mohammad (SAW)- who always made sure to set an example for Ummah and the entire humanity….his extreme respect towards women of all faiths, backgrounds and ethinicities can be refreshed by picking up any book on Sirahat un Nabi….!

  6. Armaghan Saqib August 1, 2010 at 10:10 am #

    Just admire your commitment to homeland.

  7. shayma September 1, 2010 at 2:13 am #

    Sehar- Just happened to find out about your blog from a colleague- lots of interesting write-ups here. i look forward to reading more. e brava. x shayma

  8. Bila September 3, 2010 at 9:46 am #

    Well Sehar once you are in Pakistan please beware of the patriotic Pakistanis who are practicing Muslims too. When you have handled enough swindling I would like to know your thoughts.
    All the best for your sojourn in Pakistan.

  9. shehram malik September 16, 2010 at 12:10 pm #

    I stumbled upon your blog somehow but I’m glad i did. I’ve lived most of my life outside of Pakistan but in my mind i plan it every single day, to return and do something for my own country, but as a student it is just not possible yet. I am impressed by your writing and i admire your passion for Our beloved homeland Pakistan. I try my best over here in states to inform my fellow colleagues and friends about the true colors and beauty of PAK. I wish that our Pakistani Youth which is spread all over the World starts thinking about PAK.
    anyhow i will get back to reading your blog.
    Also if you don’t mind me asking where did you graduate from in USA?
    Cheers
    Pakistan Zindabad..

    • Saifullah Khalid March 3, 2011 at 1:06 am #

      Getting back to Pakistan is not only patriotic theme, one can help Pakistan while in states or elsewhere in the world. The need of not being obsessed by individualism over nationalism is most needed today. Our youth like you are almost 50% of our population and can do miracles if decided and committed.
      You can own a a local student in Pakistan it will cost you sacrifice only one piza or a juicy drink.
      You can sponsor a scholarship in your hometown school it will cost you only a dinner.
      Be a Pakistani by giving something to Pakistan.

  10. SajS September 16, 2010 at 4:37 pm #

    Nice explanations…

  11. Humayun Iftikhar October 1, 2010 at 1:33 pm #

    Committed to return to Pakistan, Inspiring

  12. Samra March 20, 2011 at 3:08 pm #

    I am so glad woman you are thinking of or by now you might be back. Will catch you some time and I love it when you talk…. I am still waiting to read more of your stuff.:)

  13. Sehar(: Bokhari March 28, 2011 at 5:27 am #

    We have the same name!(:

  14. Nameless Lover May 10, 2011 at 5:08 pm #

    Sehar, will you marry me?

  15. Danial Shah February 26, 2012 at 10:05 pm #

    I like this approach Sehar. This is Home. And i hope you’ll do wonders with what you’ve learnt for this country 🙂 good luck

  16. hoyakeen June 12, 2012 at 3:49 pm #

    I admire your enthusiasum to come back to Pakistan. I think all the Pakistani students whereever we are around the world should come back to our homeland. We should all unite somehow it can be through an academic blog or anything else and make a difference in our society.

  17. Farrukh March 27, 2013 at 7:23 pm #

    Sehar I admire your committment to Pakistan. Wouldnt it be better if your could stay abroad and remove misconceptions regarding Pakistan there?

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